Petawawa Military Family Resource Centre
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DECODING DEPLOYMENT: THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES MILITARY EDITION IF YOUR PARTNER'S LOVE LANGUAGE IS... WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: 1. To remind yourself that "Words of Affirmation" is your partner's primary love language, print the following on a 3x5 card and put it on a mirror or other place where you will see it daily: Words are important! Words are important! Words are important! 2. For one week, keep a written record of all the words of affirmation you give your partner each day. You might be surprised how well (or how poorly) you are speaking words of affirmation. "You did a great job on this meal." "You really look nice in that outfit." "I appreciate you picking up the dry cleaning." On Tuesday, I said: Etc… 3. Set a goal to give your partner a different compliment every day for one month. If "an apple a day keeps the doctor away" maybe a compliment a day will keep the counselor away. (You may want to record these compliments, so you will not duplicate the statements.) 4. As you watch TV, read, or listen to people's conversations, look for words of affirmation that people use. Write those affirming statements in notebook or keep them electronically. Read through these periodically and select those you could use with your partner. When you use one, note the date on which you used it. Your notebook may become your love book. Remember, words are important! 5. Write a love letter, a love paragraph, or a love sentence to your partner and it quietly or with fanfare! You may someday find your love letter tucked away in some special place. Words are important! 6. Compliment your partner in the presence of his parents or friends. You will get double credit: Your partner will feel loved and the parents will feel lucky to have such a great son-in-law or daughter-in-law.