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OP Family Readiness - May 2020

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on how the child feels and to express hope and faith that everything will be okay. Saying "everything will be okay don't cry" will not make a child feel comfort. It is important to talk through the feelings. • Some children may voice concerns about the parent not returning from the deployment and they may be concerned about what will happen to them. It is important to explain to the child that they will be loved and cared for no matter what. If the child is old enough it is possible to discuss with them your plans. • Children may need help clarifying what they are told or what they believe about war and the role of Canada and their parent in the conflict. It is important to clear up what they are thinking. • Above all always be honest with children. Share your fears and concerns while reassuring them. EXPECT AND RESPOND TO CHANGED IN BEHAVIOUR • All children will likely display some signs of stress before and during a deployment. Some immature, aggressive, oppositional behaviour are normal reactions to the situation. It is important to maintain consistent expectations of children's behaviour. This will create route for the child and give them an understanding that the same rules will apply during deployment. • Some children will have struggles at night time during the deployment. It is important to be flexible around certain point. Nightlights, sleeping with a special toy, cuddling etc. are very important as this gives the child some comfort and doing so typically does not cause life-long habits. • Talk with children about their art or written images and how they feel. Help them express how they feel and share your feelings as well. Some children may draw more about war and violence during this time and it is important to recognize and acknowledge their feeling but also to redirect them. Share explanations with the children in an age appropriate way. • Extra support, consistency and patience will help children return to their routines and their more usual behaviour patterns. • If children's behaviour patterns continue to change and concern you it is best to talk to a mental health professional for guidance.

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