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4 SEPTEMBER 23-OCTOBER 13, 2017 | DENVER CATHOLIC In-Depth Fatima Centennial October Events Mass in celebration of the 100th anniversary of Our Lady's final apparition 6:00 pm Rosary to follow Mass Friday, October 13 fatimacentennial.com Procession of St. Joan of Arc Our Lady of Fatima statue 9:45 am Rosary in the Church 10:30 am Mass and closing of the pilgrimage year, presided by Archbishop Aquila 11:00 am Portuguese lunch in the school cafeteria/gym 12:30 pm Friday, October 27 Sunday, October 29 Organ Concert 7:00 pm Richard Robinson, organist Cyrissa Anderson, soprano Free Our Lady of Fatima Catholic Church, Lakewood, Colorado W hile divorces are still very common and the average age of young people mar- rying is older every year (for men, it's almost 30; for women it's about 27), true love still exists. But it doesn't look the way the world imagines it to be: Heart-pounding, but- terfl y-stomach, head-over-heels, warm, fuzzy feelings. It's much deeper. For Bill and Fran Chism, 89 and 91, who celebrate 65 years of marriage this year, it looks more like faithfulness — especially in the diŒ culties of life. Four years ago, Fran broke her hip and her health quickly declined. Soon, she was diagnosed with dementia. "We thought we were going to lose her a couple times in the hospital," Bill said. "She had an upper chest infection… her memory was slipping away, and then she got shingles last September, and that just wiped out her memory." Bill put her in a memory care facility so she could have help being cared for; but even then, he was still with her most of the day, getting her up for breakfast and putting her to bed at night. Just a month ago, Bill took Fran home to care for her on his own — even getting a knee replacement a year ago at the age of 88 so that he would be able to take care of his wife. "[He] thought he wouldn't be able to take care of her the way he'd need to with the pain and the problems with the knee," said Dede Chism, Bill's daughter-in-law. So, despite the doctor pushing back due to his age, Bill convinced him to do the knee replacement. It wasn't long before he was taking walks around the park again and caring for Fran. Now, though her memory su‹ ers, Fran is able to do most things on her own, and Bill cares for her every day in their quiet home. EARLY DAYS Bill and Fran met in Downtown Denver at a dance, and initially, Fran wouldn't marry him because he wasn't Catholic. After talking to a priest about the issue, he decided to become Catho- lic after his term with the navy was over. World War II was just ending; he would later serve in the Korean war as well. After that, Fran agreed, and they married in 1952 at the Cathedral Basil- ica of the Immaculate Conception. They drove from Colorado to San Francisco, Calif., where Bill would ship out only 10 months after marrying Fran. They were also expecting their fi rst son. "I was shipping out and she was due, that was tough," Bill said. "I told the doctor…I hope she can have the baby before I leave…sometimes if you give them castor oil, it'll induce. She didn't need it. We just got back and she started having pains. Took her [to the hospital] and was told, 'Oh you better go back home, she'll be here all night.' "I no sooner left than she went into labor and she had a hard time with our fi rst son, he was nine pounds, and she's kinda small. So I wasn't there when he was born, but I got the word after he was born that it's all over now; they told me it wouldn't happen till morning," Bill said. The couple went on to have three boys, fi ve grandchildren and now have 11 great-grandchildren. It wasn't until having a couple kids that Bill was able to join the Catholic Church, in 1960. "It took a while to get around to it, and I took instructions," Bill said. "She knew how to pray, I didn't, I still have a little diŒ culty with it." The couple practiced their faith together in the form of praying every night before bed with one another. 'I DO MEANS I DO' So what's kept their marriage strong through all the "ups and downs" of life: Wars, sicknesses, deaths in the family? "Commitment," Bill said. "When we got married, we made a commitment. That's what's holding us together. With me, when I make a commitment, I stick with it. "Oh, we've had our ups and downs. Not fi ghts, but misunderstandings or arguments. But it wouldn't be life if you didn't," he added. According to Bill's son, Ken Chism, the couple believes they're just ordi- nary, simple people, and they are. But the simple example of true love in a marriage that's weathered many joys and struggles in the family is an exam- ple that's sorely needed today, Ken said. "He said I don't know why you want to hear from me, we're just simple people," Ken said. "The fact of the matter is, the simplest truth is that you don't have to know all of the the- ology. What you need to know is God has called you, and with that 'I do,' that God's grace and his love is enough." "[Bill] said, 'When I said I do, I do,'" he continued. "The problem is so many people fi nd 'I don'ts' to put in that, instead of always 'I do.' You can't have anything that you're not willing to do, or your relationship will fail. And that's both [spouses]. Both have to have that attitude. So for me to watch what's hap- pened the last fi ve years especially…you don't know what you've got to live with. And he's lived out the 'I do' like no one I've ever seen. And it's very, very special to be able to watch that." Dede said that though Bill and Fran have weathered every decade where marriage looked so di‹ erent, God has remained the foundation, which never changes. "A marriage grounded in faith and Christ is a marriage that will succeed, regardless of what comes your way, because God succeeds," she said. "And I would say that that one thing is the center of our marriage. Wars, sicknesses…you can survive anything because with God, all things are possible." Here's what 65 years of marriage looks like BY THERESE BUSSEN therese.bussen@archden.org @ThereseBussen Couples celebrating 25, 50 or 50+ years of marriage this year are invited to the annual Anniversary Mass at Immaculate Heart of Mary Parish in Northglenn. Bishop Jorge Rodriguez will be the celebrant, and cake and co£ ee reception will follow. For more information, con- tact Jennifer Sharn at 303-715-3252 or jennifer. sharn@archden.org. i Bill and Fran Chism are a beautiful example of the vocation of marriage. PHOTOS BY ANDREW WRIGHT

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