Petawawa Military Family Resource Centre
Issue link: http://read.uberflip.com/i/711198
IF YOUR PARTNER'S LOVE LANGUAGE IS... QUALITY TIME: 1. Take a walk together through the old neighbour where one of you grew up. Ask questions about your partner's childhood. Ask, "What are the fun memories of your childhood?" Then, "What was most painful about your childhood?" 2. Go to the city park and rent bicycles. Ride until you are tired, then sit and watch the ducks. When you get tired of the quacks, roll on to the rose garden. Learn each other's favorite colour of rose and why. 3. Ask your partner for a list of five activities they would enjoy doing with you. Make plans to do one of them each month for the next five months. If money is a problem, space the freebies between the "we can't afford this" events. 4. Ask your partner where they most enjoy sitting when talking with you. The next week, text her one afternoon and say, "I want to make a date with you one evening this week to sit on the porch and talk. Which night and what time would be best for you?" 5. Think of an activity your partner enjoys, but which brings little pleasure to you: NASCAR, browsing in flea markets, working out. Tell your partner you are trying to broaden your horizons and would like to join them in this activity sometime this month. Set a date and give it your best effort. 6. Plan a weekend getaway just for the two of you sometime within the next six months. Be sure it's a weekend when you won't have to call the office or have to commitment with your kids. Focus on relaxing together doing what one or both of you enjoy. 7. Make time every day to share with each other some of the event of the day. When you spend more time watching the news than you do listening to each other, you end up more concerned about the Middle East than about your partner. Or: When you spend more time on Facebook than you do listening to one another, you end up more concerned about your hundreds of "friends" than about your partner. 8. Have a "Let's review our history" evening once every three months. Set aside an hour to focus on your history. Select five questions each of you will answer, such as" • Who was your best and worst teacher in school and why? • When did you feel your parents were proud of you? • What is the worst mistake your mother ever made? • What was the worst mistake your father ever made? • What do you remember about the religious aspect of your childhood?